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You are a fucking badass. You are a warrior. The people around you who haven't gone through this have no idea how strong you are right now. Mt. Everest? Fucking molehill. After this is over (and, yes, the cravings will stop), everything will seem a little easier, because you've already done one of the hardest things in the world.
I'm three weeks in today, and every day is easier than the last. If anyone needs to talk, vent, commiserate, or just be reminded of what a badass motherfucker they are for quitting, feel free to message me.
I'm three weeks in today, and every day is easier than the last. If anyone needs to talk, vent, commiserate, or just be reminded of what a badass motherfucker they are for quitting, feel free to message me.
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Re: For anyone having a hard time
Fri, June 17, 2005 - 9:57 PMOnly three weeks? I've been just over 1.5 years and I still got cravings...
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Re: For anyone having a hard time
Sat, June 18, 2005 - 9:50 AMDammit, Beavis, that's supposed to be a secret! :)
1.5 years? Good for you!
No, I'm still having cravings, but they're getting easier to ignore. And I doubt that a cigarette will ever look repulsive to me. My dad, who hasn't smoked since his open heart surgeries seventeen years ago, still gets the occasional urge. I just mean that the knuckle-gnawing, gut wrenching, obsessive desire for just one more puff will go away.
For me, at least, it made things easier when my husband would tell me how strong he thought I was, rather than reminding me of the negative aspects of smoking (as non-smokers are wont to do). I thought I'd offer the same support here, in case it would help someone else through their day. -
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Re: For anyone having a hard time
Sun, June 19, 2005 - 4:31 PMThanks so much for the support Molly, it's been a real battle for me... can't seem to make it past a week, then I break down and buy a pack, then I try again, then I break again... it's been vicious. *AAARRGH!* -
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Re: For anyone having a hard time
Sun, August 21, 2005 - 6:43 PMJoining you guys. We rock!
I quit for 6 months between July 2004 and Jan 2005 and all I can say is...once you've gone through it and you're quit...DON'T start again. Tonight I am quitting again and I can't believe I am putting myself through this again. Well, NEVER again!!!
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Re: For anyone having a hard time
Tue, February 21, 2006 - 4:29 PMThank you Molly, I got dumped by the girl I was going to get married too, about 3 days after I quit smoking. I'm in the process of moving everything I own out of her house and barely hangin on emotionally, but I have managed to stay smoke free for 20 days now. No one really pats me on the back or anything , and I sure could use it. Its the only thing that is going right in my life at the moment.
So once again,
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Re: For anyone having a hard time
Thu, February 23, 2006 - 12:14 PMwell, here's what i know
or some of it anyway
the first 3 weeks is the hardest. this is because it takes about that long for the majority of physical addiction to go away.
its not always smooth sailing after that as [i can't remember who] attested to. but for most, it gets a lot lot lot easier if you can get past that point.
hang in there!
i'm gonna quit in 9 days. i've quit before. once for a year and a half. and then again but i was on a roller coaster of quitting and relapsing. that lasted a year and a half. i don't know if it'll help but here's what i am leaning on as i approach this quit....
for me, i'm realizing that much of my smoking and difficulties in quitting have to do with my low self-esteem. long ass story, but in a nut shell...
what i fear most is making the changes i need to in so many areas of my life besides just smoking.
its not that i'm afraid of what i will change into - that's a happy thing. its not that changing is actually hard in and of itself - just do it! i could make a concrete list of what i would do with my time instead of what i do now. i just need to do it.
for me, what has gotten in my way is my fear of the transition. i fear feeling isolated and mostly i fear sadness and greif, all associated with the changes i know i have to make.
but what i've realized is that i need to learn to hold the results of my changes (being happier and better off all around) above the discomfort i might experience getting there.
in a way, whether your issues are like mine or not, i think that's true for most people quitting. hold the good results above the discomfort, and keep remembering to do that thru each crave....
you're doing so well!
keep it up!
when you reach your first month, i will lean on you in my quit. :)
(and, there's this quit smoking online forum thing that has free 24 hour chat www.quitnet.com if you'd like more kudos. its a little conservative for my tastes, but all kinds of people are in there. all would give you many many pats on your back at any hour of the day.)
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Re: For anyone having a hard time
Mon, June 12, 2006 - 5:59 PMIt's the cognitive/behavorial addiction that's giving me trouble. I started a new job last Monday, and also went on the gum the same day. the cravings during work are fine, but at home I fall back into my behavioral routine. I still smoke, but I don't enjoy it. I smoke so I will stop thinging about smoking.
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My goal is not to deprive myself of something I enjoy occasional but mostly detest. My goal is to change my behavior and habits such that other things appeal more to me than smoking. The image of the beautiful woman (my German ladyfriend Katrin) who refuses to kiss me beause of the whole "licking an ashtray" thing tends to work.
But it's just like needed that pat on the back. This is so significant for me, if only it were significant to someone else!
Stay strong. Stay proud.
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Re: For anyone having a hard time
Sun, February 4, 2007 - 10:18 AMFor my part, I am a very firm beleiver in concious language and in this vein context and semantics is everything. What does this have to do with not smoking you ask? I beleive there is a very big difference between considering yourself an ex-smoker or a non-smoker. As an ex-smoker it is always there...this constant reminder that you used to do something you are not allowing yourself to do anymore, sounds like a set up for a struggle to me. As a non-smoker...well your just a non-smoker now. No remorse, nothing to look back on wistfully, just hey here I am, non-smoker guy...healthier, happier and more full of energy than that person I used to be who smoked. Try using this as a creative visualization before sleep...just picture yourself as a non-smoker, clean healthy lungs, more energetic...repeat in your mind ...I am a non-smoker. I am a non-smoker.
Is this making any sense? See, as a non-smoker you cannot possibly have any cravings for something you just don't do...so, in becoming a non-smoker you simply have to adjust to this new lifestyle instead of quitting one of the most addictive drugs. This may sound a little like self trickery, but the mind is a curious place and can have a lot of power over us.
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